Just to get into the spirit…I thought these were great Valentines.

Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.
John Lennon (1940 - 1980), “Beautiful Boy”

So yesterday we had this workshop for our young people and my co-worker mentioned life events. Things that happen that have repercussions that ripple through other aspects of your life.

Last night I had a life event. I spoke to my father and my sister. I’ve never met her in person and haven’t physically been in his presence since I was three. It’s been at least 10 years since I spoke to him over the phone. It wasn’t totally out of the blue cause he called my mother to get my info and she called and gave me the heads up that he was going to call. It was a very weird situation. Speaking with my sister was cool. I’ve spoken to her more than him really. Speaking to him was crazy. Despite what the conversation was. There were the unspoken things and that which was under the surface. Even as a calm person who works as a counselor it was still weird. I tread lightly, but was unsettled. I tried not to be emotional and say hurtful things or accuse, but I kept realizing I didn’t know him enough know what might hurt or what might seem accusing. Then I kept remembering…”he” is my father. I downed a beer afterwards and sat on the edge of my bed thinking. I did make it in to work today. I even hit up my sisters site and shot her an email with my blog and myspace info. (BTW it wouldn’t be right if I didn’t give her a plug http://www.mystykalkennels.com/). In some ways, however, I’m still sitting on the edge of my bed thinking.