I figured I would post this just to get it out of the way. I just can’t let the whole “Black Male Privilege” thing slide.
Leadership & Politics
1. I don’t have to choose my race over my sex in political matters.
C’mon man, politics is about issues not picking a woman, a man or
either of a certain race. Anyone who bases voting on something like
that is a moron.
2. When I read African American History textbooks, I will learn mainly
about black men.
3. When I learn about the Civil Rights Movement & the Black Power
Movements, most of the leaders that I will learn about will be black
men.
I went to public school so I have yet to see an African American
History textbook…personally I can name as many women as I can men in
this area. When we learn about this most of the time we’ll learn about
“safe” people. No school I went to brought up The Black Panthers and
they just barely brought up Malcolm X. We learn about those leaders
that white America can actually be comfortable with. I learned about a
lot of women: Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Madame C.J. Walker, Mae
Jemison, Shirley Chisolm, Billie Holiday, Rosa Parks…even for Martin
Luther King Jr. we knew who his wife was…I can’t say that for the
husbands/wives of many other black leaders.
4. I can rely on the fact that in the near 100-year history of
national civil rights organizations such as the NAACP and the Urban
League, virtually all of the executive directors have been male.
Call me back when these organizations become effective again. However,
given the time periods they started in it would have been even more
radical to have a female director then it was to be a “black
organization”.
5. I will be taken more seriously as a political leader than black
women.
Sorry son, I live in Baltimore…our town is run by black women, I’m not
sure how it is where you’re from. Hell even our city council has one
more male then female…and out of the blacks represented there are two
black men and 5 black women…including the President sed council.
6. Despite the substantial role that black women played in the Civil
Rights Movement and Black Power Movement, currently there is no black
female that is considered a “race leader”.
Name a man who actually is a race leader I can’t say that we have one…
that’s why people want Tiger Woods to say something they’re desperate
for anyone.
7. I can live my life without ever having read black feminist authors,
or knowing about black women’s history, or black women’s issues.
That’s true of plenty of authors, history and issues. Most people
don’t even know Alexander Dumas is black. Who writes about black men’s
issues…and I don’t mean “10 reasons why he cheats” type of crap
either. As far as history if you rely on any one but yourself your
knowlege of black history will be: MLK, Rosa Parks and George
Washington Carver doing a million things with the peanut. So basically
the reverse is also true.
8. I can be a part of a black liberation organization like the Black
Panther Party where an “out” rapist Eldridge Cleaver can assume
leadership position.
First off…If I was several years older this would have a better chance
to be true, but it has no application today. This is a bullshit
picking and choosing of information. Why don’t you ascribe fault for
having anything to do with any organization or group who had an
imprefect man in a leadership role. Especially ones who were
essentially over by the time I was born. He also got addicted to crack
and endorsed Ronald Regan that’s on us as well I guess? You do neglect
to mention that his rapes were of white women and tied to the social
climate at the time and he saw it as revenge against an oppressor.
9. I will make more money than black women at equal levels of
education and occupation.
First, this stat never mentions that fact that more women work part-
time and take time off in order to have and care for children thus
diminishing their total earnings. Also if one can prove such a thing
is happening then their are actions that can be taken under the law.
10. Most of the national “opinion framers” in Black America including
talk show hosts and politicians are men.
National opinion framers are bullshit. The majority of thinking people
rarely line up with them. Similar to political pundits. However in
this election cycle I can name a even amount of black men and women on
CNN who are called on a regular basis. Actually one of those men has
not been around as much. So basically there are more of us
bullshitting then black women?
Beauty
11. I have the ability to define black women’s beauty by European
standards in terms of skin tone, hair, and body size. In comparison,
black women rarely define me by European standards of beauty in terms
of skin tone, hair, or body size.
The light skinned thing has gone both ways. In addition efforts to
combat this thinking have done more to count against lightskinned men
than women. Lightskinned dudes haven’t been popular since the 80’s.
Don’t even get me started on hair. I’m not considered professional
since I have more then a 1/4 inch of hair and if I was to perm to come
closer to European standard that wouldn’t help me either. I’m also
encouraged to do what I can to get “waves” so my hair can seem less
nappy. In total anyone can judge anyone else by whatever standard they
chose…if it’s intelligent or not is another story. I also don’t know
any black men who prefer european body size…that’s just false.
12. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of having my hair
conforming to any standard image of beauty the way black women do.
See: more then a 1/4 inch of hair = unprofessional. Employers have
banned locks and cornrows…most don’t appreciate a man with an afro.
This is blatantly ignoring reality. Not to mention black women don’t
have to…the same way other women don’t have to. If most of them
actually listened to men they wouldn’t.
13. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of being terrorized
by the fear of gaining weight. In fact, in many instances bigger is
better for my sex.
Where is this at? I hear people say big girls need love…I don’t hear
many people advocating getting with fat dudes. Even mentioning this is
just playing into a mostly european standard which even a lot of
caucasians think is a false expectation of the average person. Hell,
large black women even have a descriptive term…BBW.
14. My looks will not be the central standard by which my worth is
valued by members of the opposite sex.
No, my bank account will be along with my car and whatever property I
own…then my dick size and then my looks the latter two changing order
depending on who’s doing the choosing.
Sex & Sexuality
15. I can purchase pornography that typically shows men defile women
by the common practice of the “money shot.”
You can’t even use porn as a measure…Rule 34 whatever you can think of
there is a porn version…if you want to see women beating men’s asses…
you can. Is the man who’s dominated on film women’s responsibility?
It’s sex for pay and the entertainment of others not to reproduce or
express love or emotion. Is lesbian porn demeaning to women? What
about a gay man getting the money shot?
16. I can believe that causing pain during sex is connected with a
woman’s pleasure without ever asking her.
You’re talking to the wrong people dude. Only people into S&M are
really into pain. But I will say this…in my experience more women say
“harder, faster” then “slower, softer”…actually I don’t think I’ve
ever heard the latter. Any lover, male or female, who never talks to
their partner about what they enjoy is a poor lover.
17. I have the privilege of not wanting to be a virgin, but preferring
that my wife or significant other be a virgin.
Any one can not want one thing for themselves, but prefer it from
someone else…even if it’s stupid.
18. When it comes to sex if I say “No”, chances are that it will not
be mistaken for “Yes”.
Chances are my manhood will be challenged and I will be insulted for
saying no. Chances are that when it comes down to sex I’m expected to
want it at any given time and should I turn it down I’m suddenly
“suspect” for a variety of reasons. If you are a man and you turn down
sex you end up facing a whole different animal. “Are you gay? A punk?
Can’t get it up? Impotent? I’m pretty sure there’s a brother reading
this who has had this experience.
19. If I am raped, no one will assume that “I should have known
better” or suggest that my being raped had something to do with how I
was dressed.
If I am raped I will be looked down on and considered a punk. I will
be expected to give up my life before allowing someong to take
advantage of me in such a way. If I’m raped I will be looked at in a
totally different light. Thanks for suggesting rape could possibly be
less painful for one sex then another.
20. I can use sexist language like bonin’, laying the pipe, hittin-it,
and banging that convey images of sexual acts based on dominance and
performance.
What is sexist about this language? I mean really…is it no longer
sexist if a woman uses the same language? This is a stretch.
Addititonally even books that play to womens sexual fantasies don’t
have a bunch of submissive men. That particular forum, strictly
marketed to and bought by women, frames men in the light of dominance
and performance.
21. I can live in a world where polygamy is still an option for men in
the United States as well as around the world.
Polygamy is illegal in the United States…I’ll face criminal charges
for it. I can also live in a world where things are based on a
Matrilineal succession because while the paternity may be uncertain
maternity is easily provable…without DNA results.
22. In general, I prefer being involved with younger women socially
and sexually.
Many younger women prefer older men. I also am assumed to be less
mature then a woman my age for the entirety of my life as well.
However, to suggest that generally men want a younger woman is also a
stretch. How many women are looking for younger men?
23. In general, the more sexual partners that I have the more stature
I receive among my peers.
In that equation I also have the “privilege” to be expected to perform
well sexually. It’s not considered positive for a woman to have to
teach me or guide me. I’m subject to be ridiculed for a “sub-par”
performance. Even having multiple partners will not ensure my ability.
Double edged sword…especially since more women are interested in men
that other women are interested in.
24. I have easy access to pornography that involves virtually any
category of sex where men degrade women, often young women.
Rule 34….it goes both ways and is therefore invalid. If a woman wants
she can find porn of a man having sex with a donkey. Somewhere there
is porn of Shaggy and Fred getting it on.
25. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where “purity balls”
apply to girls but not to boys.
Yes…I’m very privileged that I’m not taught to value my sexuality and
am encouraged to “throw my dick on the craps table.”
26. When I consume pornography, I can gain pleasure from images and
sounds of men causing women pain.
Keep your fetish to yourself and don’t ascribe it to me.
Popular Culture
27. I come from a tradition of humor that is based largely on
insulting and disrespecting women; especially mothers.
Perhaps because fewer of us have fathers, however, to say it’s largely
based on insulting and disrespecting women is not true. You also
forgot the fact that alot of black men (and italians) will beat the
snot out of you for insulting their mother.
28. I have the privilege of not having black women, dress up and play
funny characters- often overweight- that are supposed to look like me
for the entire nation to laugh.
I also get to watch a multitude of sit-coms with the following
formula: Sexy intelligent woman is married to overweight, idiotic man…
hilarity ensues.
29. When I go to the movies, I know that most of the leads in black
films are men. I also know that all of the action heroes in black film
are men.
I call shenanigans. There are more films depicting negative black men
than positive. There are as many leading black women as there are men.
The first black person to get an oscar was a black woman. While black
women may face challenges in film…so do black men whos main role is
Thug #1.
30. I can easily imagine that most of the artists in Hip Hop are
members of my sex.
I can imagine that most of the mainstream artists in Hip Hop aren’t
promoted based on talent but their marketability to young white men…
who can live out testosterone fueled fantasies through their music.
31. I can easily imagine that most of the women that appear in Hip Hop
videos are there solely to please men.
Umm…that’s called visual marketing….when you see men in women’s videos
no one thinks…”wow, he must be smart.”
32. Most of lyrics I listen to in hip-hop perpetuate the ideas of
males dominating women, sexually and socially.
Not true for me and fans of true hip-hop music. Which will get no play
or promotion. As long as black women are buying it and dancing to it
blame is shared equally…despite the fact that neither of us is the
main consumer of the music in question.
33. I have the privilege of consuming and popularizing the word pimp,
which is based on the exploitation of women with virtually no
opposition from other men.
What’s the genre of pimp movies…blaxploitation right? Thank you.
Besides. Goldy’s brother didn’t approve of his lifestyle so there.
34. I can hear and use language like bitches and hoes that demean
women, with virtually no opposition from men.
Women can call men dogs with virtually no opposition from men or
women. I can also be called a man whore like it’s a compliment.
35. I can wear a shirt that others and I commonly refer to as a “wife
beater” and never have the language challenged.
Women should challenge that shouldn’t they…perhaps they shouldn’t call
them wife beaters either. However, the actual name is A-line t-shirt
and the description comes about from trailer park white men of a low
class who often drink too much and abuse their wives…score one for
black men?
36. Many of my favorite movies include images of strength that do not
include members of the opposite sex and often are based on violence.
Please stop telling me what I like…frankly I quite enjoy Ellen Ripley
from the Alien series. I also dig Sarah Connors transformation in the
second Terminator movie. Meanwhile I also get to see less examples of
black men in movies being portrayed as morally, intellectually or
spiritually strong…which is basically a description of almost every
Angela Basset character.
37. Many of my favorite genres of films, such as martial arts, are
based on violence.
Martial Arts is a fighting style and if you ever really watched any of
the movies or studied martial arts you would know that those who enjoy
engaging in the violence are usually portrayed as the villan and
dishonorable person. But, where is the privilege in this or the
previous assertion?
38. I have the privilege of popularizing or consuming the idea of a
thug, which is based on the violence and victimization of others with
virtually no opposition from other men.
I am victimized by the popularizing of the idea of being a thug…as
that’s what most people assume I am because I am a black man.
Attitudes/Ideology
39. I have the privilege to define black women as having “an attitude”
without referencing the range of attitudes that black women have.
All men are dogs. Black men don’t take care of their kids. We all
cheat…shall I go on. I also get to accept the idea that all black
women are strong black women…while it’s a miracle if I’m responsible.
40. I have the privilege of defining black women’s attitudes without
defining my attitudes as a black man.
This is just bullshit. Any sex or race can freely engage in
assumptions about character traits of another. No one shuts down black
women who speak of a negative view of black men.
41. I can believe that the success of the black family is dependent on
returning men to their historical place within the family, rather than
in promoting policies that strengthen black women’s independence, or
that provide social benefits to black children.
I also get to believe, along with everyone else, that most black men
don’t participate or take care of their families. Meanwhile more black
women would cite support as a large need before they say they need to
be more independent…which a lot of women actually are. As far as the
benefits for black children….what…we don’t want them to have health
care, is that it?
42. I have the privilege of believing that a woman cannot raise a son
to be a man.
Just as I have the privilege of believing I can’t raise a daughter to
be a woman. Depends on the person, the popular phrase is, You can’t be
one if you never see one. However, I don’t think most black men raised
by single mothers would agree with your assertion.
43. I have the privilege of believing that a woman must submit to her
man.
Personal choice and not socially accepted anymore. Which doesn’t
matter if the woman in question doesn’t agree.
44. I have the privilege of believing that before slavery gender
relationships between black men and women were perfect.
I do? Which culture are you basing this on and how are they imperfect…
since we all have such a deep knowledge of our pre-slavery ancestors…
elaborate. I don’t hear…anyone speaking like they believe this…even if
they do.
45. I have the privilege of believing that feminism is anti-black.
I have the privilege of black feminists stating that feminism and
black feminism aren’t one and the same. Sojourner Truth any one -
Ain’t I a Woman?
46. I have the privilege of believing that the failure of the black
family is due to the black matriarchy.
Who you been talking to dude? I hear that it’s because men aren’t
doing their jobs, that men aren’t in the household or that men aren’t
supporting their children.
47. I have the privilege of believing that household responsibilities
are women’s roles.
I have the privilege of having a woman tell me “Hell to the naw”. I
also have the privilege of believing that certain household chores are
men’s roles as well.
48. I have the privilege of believing that black women are different
sexually than other women and judging them negatively based on this
belief.
Um, excuse me…not familiar. I have heard more often about the
looseness and sexual willingness of white women and the submissive
tendancies of asian women.
Sports
49. I will make significantly more money as a professional athlete
than members of the opposite sex will.
Perhaps if more women supported women’s sports this wouldn’t be an
issue. However I would wager that more men then women actually watch
women’s sports than.
50. In school, girls are cheerleaders for male athletes, but there is
no such role for males to cheerleader for women athletes.
The same squads cheer for male and female teams at institutions that
have both…they also include men, when you can find some who don’t mind
being mocked for doing it.
51. My financial success or popularity as a professional athlete will
not be associated with my looks.
The same is true for women…a good athlete doesn’t have to be pretty.
Those female atheletes who look good but don’t succed at their sport
are ridiculed for it. Men will be quick to point out which female
atheletes are just pretty faces and can’t compare to ones that
actually have talent. No man ever said Anna Kournikova was any good at
Tennis.
52. I can talk about sports or spend large portions of the day playing
video games while women are most likely involved with household or
childcare duties.
If you are married or living with a pushover. I’m also expected to fix
what breaks, take care of automobiles, cut grass, take out trash and
often to provide a woman with free time away from children. While also
being expected to not know how to take care of my own children.
53. I can spend endless hours watching sports TV and have it
considered natural.
And women can’t watch, fashion shows, soap operas, HGTV, etc.?
54. I can touch, hug, or be emotionally expressive with other men
while watching sports without observers perceiving this behavior as
sexual.
WHAT THE HELL?! Women can hug or be emotionally expressive at anytime
without it being considered sexual. You can do this if you’re on the
team and you’ve just won a championship, but I don’t know dudes that
hug while watching football games. The only time it’s accepted for men
to hug besides this is when we haven’t seen each other for a long
time, most of the time we would have to deal with others thinking we
are homosexual. This is just false.
55. I know that most sports analysts are male.
If you’re watching males sports…seeing how more men are interested in
sports that’s a given. However for women’s sports you will see more
female analysts…since men don’t play women’s sports.
56. If I am a coach, I can motivate, punish, or embarrass a player by
saying that the player plays like a girl.
Would it be a compliment to suggest a woman does something like a man?
Depends on the player. Most intelligent ones already know the bogus
methods coaches use for motivation.
57. Most sports talk show hosts that are members of my race are men.
More men are interested in sports then women. Your point is not valid.
58. I can rest assured that most of the coaches -even in predominately-
female sports within my race are male.
I can’t even name black male coaches in female sports. I can think of
some white ones. I do know the woman that is considered the best
women’s college basketball coach of all time as well, how many women
know her name?
59. I am able to play sports outside without my shirt on and it not be
considered a problem.
How many women want to play sports without a shirt and or sports bra?
60. I am essentially able to do anything inside or outside without my
shirt on, whereas women are always required to cover up.
Yet again a lame attempt at scoring a point. Especially since men can
be viewed strictly as sexual objects when removing their shirts.
Diaspora/Global
61. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where the mutilation
and disfigurement of a girl’s genitalia is used to deny her sexual
sensations or to protect her virginity for males.
And most women think it’s gross for a man to be uncircumcised. Outside
of the few cultures that actually do this, this is not something the
average american man is in favor of…or the average man who is not a
part of one of these cultures. Stretching.
62. I have the privilege of not having rape be used as a primary
tactic or tool to terrorize my sex during war and times of conflict.
Is this really a point? Slow or quick death is such a privilege.
Knowing your wife, mother, sister or daughter may face rape during war
is great for us, huh? Luckily since women aren’t drafted or required
to be put in combat situations (Unless you’re Israeli) we’ve already
had the privilege of dying before this happens…lucky us.
63. I have the privilege of not being able to name one female leader
in Africa or Asia, past or present, that I pay homage to the way I do
male leaders in Africa and/or Asia.
How does asia even come up in this debate? I can actually name a few
female leaders (Nefertiti, Cleopatra, Queen Nzinga) but frankly most
people can’t name many of either sex. Which I don’t see how I benefit
from.
64. I have the ability to travel around the world and have access to
women in developing countries both sexually and socially.
Yes, because women can’t travel and engage socially or sexually with
men in any developing country? Please…my roommate had a boyfriend in
Madagascar when she was in Peace Corps. It all depends on the beliefs/
religion of where you are…I’m also pretty sure that places with strict
beliefs or religions would not welcome me to come and sleep with their
women. In fact…in some I wouldn’t even be allowed to so much as lay my
hand on their shoulder.
65. I have the privilege of being a part of the sex that starts wars
and that wields control of almost all the existing weapons of war and
mass destruction.
Great for me…I’m also the first sent to fight and die. And the one who
someone can gain honor by killing. Hooray?
College
66. In college, I will have the opportunity to date outside of the
race at a much higher rate than black women will.
Depends on what school you go to. Since less black men go to college
this is actually false.
67. I have the privilege of having the phrase “sewing my wild oats”
apply to my sex as if it were natural.
Yes…I’m encourged to throw my dick on the craps table…great.
68. I know that the further I go in education the more success I will
have with women.
Yes. That’s a privilege? Women don’t want to carry men financially,
hmm I see the benefit. Now tell me how many intelligent men are
looking for uneducated women who haven’t done anything with their
lives.
69. In college, black male professors will be involved in interracial
marriages at much higher rates than members of the opposite sex will.
Why is interracial marriage a privilege?
70. By the time I enter college, and even through college, I have the
privilege of not having to worry whether I will be able to marry a
black woman.
That is not a certainty…unless I just choose to marry anyone, but in
that case everyone would be able to get married.
71. In college, I will experience a level of status and prestige that
is not offered to black women even though black women may outnumber me
and out perform me academically.
Yes…because it’s expected that I would either being dead, in jail or
selling drugs somewhere. Great.
72. If I go to an HBCU, I will have incredible opportunities to
exploit black women.
I will have incredible opportunities to exploit anyone should I look
for them. I don’t consider immoral actions to be a privilege, however.
Communication/Language
73. What is defined as “News” in Black America is defined by men.
Is it? I hadn’t heard that. Who are these men that define the Black
American news? Frankly I find this to be unlikely since black women
are considered the group with more spending power and attention in
this country goes to this with money.
74. I can choose to be emotionally withdrawn and not communicate in a
relationships and it be considered unfortunate but normal.
I also have no guide for a healthy emotional state for a man. I’m told
to express my feelings yet am judged if should cry…most women don’t
even know how to deal with a man who breaks down in tears. I’m told to
be stoic and yet are criticized for not showing emotion…when everyone
else makes up their minds then come back and talk to me.
75. I can dismissively refer to another persons grievances as ^*ing.
So can women.
76. I have the privilege of not knowing what words and concepts like
patriarchy, phallocentric, complicity, colluding, and obfuscation
mean.
Not having a vocabulary is not a privilege. I also have the privilege
of having phallocentric thrown in my face anytime someone feels like
it. Oh, but all black men know complicity and colluding…cause we’re
all criminals…they go along with co-defendent.
Relationships
77. I have the privilege of marrying outside of the race at a much
higher rate than black women marry.
Once again…why is marrying someone who isn’t black a privilege?
78. My “strength” as a man is never connected with the failure of the
black family, whereas the strength of black women is routinely
associated with the failure of the black family.
The reverse is true. Most black families are seen as strong because of
the black woman in spite of the actions of the black man.
79. If I am considering a divorce, I know that I have substantially
more marriage, and cohabitation options than my spouse.
No, I don’t. There aren’t alot of people who want to invite grown men
to come and live with them. I do know that if I’m considering a
divorce I have to consider the hit to my income that will come as a
result.
80. Chances are I will be defined as a “good man” by things I do not
do as much as what I do. If I don’t beat, cheat, or lie, then I am a
considered a “good man”. In comparison, women are rarely defined as
“good women” based on what they do not do.
Which is a also because “good men” are considered a rare thing.
However, even if you don’t beat cheat or lie doesn’t mean you won’t be
considered a good man automatically.
81. I have the privilege of not having to assume most of the household
or child-care responsibilities.
Depends on who you’re married to or live with…every woman isn’t
willing to accept a man just relaxing while she works.
82. I have the privilege of having not been raised with domestic
responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, and washing that takes up
disproportionately more time as adults.
You don’t know me…I was taught to cook, clean and more before I was
11. I washed the dishes, washed everyones clothes, took out the trash
and helped more family members move than I can remember. It all
depends on the family you were raised in. However, it’s not so much of
a privilege when you end up living alone and have no idea how to do
those simple things for yourself.
Church & Religious Traditions
83. In the Black Church, the majority of the pastoral leadership is
male.
Partially because of bibilical traditions (it is a church) and partly
because single women enjoy attending church and thinking that they
will end up with the pastor like Thelma from Amen. If you don’t like
it find a new church. A woman is running one somewhere in your city.
84. In the Black Church Tradition, most of the theology has a male
point of view. For example, most will assume that the man is the head
of household.
Well what do you expect….progressive thinking views from a place that
uses writings from thousands of years ago as their basis.
Physical Safety
85. I do not have to worry about being considered a traitor to my race
if I call the police on a member of the opposite sex.
Dude I’m from the city of stop snitching, but I don’t think it’s a
generally accepted practice for black men to call the cops anywhere in
the country. It’s actually a pretty good way to get yourself killed.
86. I have the privilege of knowing men who are physically or sexually
abusive to women and yet I still call them friends.
First off anyone who doesn’t mind having a friend who abuses women is
likely to do it themselves. Second, I don’t see women shunning each
other for mistreating men. Third, this is based in ignorance…no man
that’s worth anythign is going to embrace a man who abuses women.
87. I can video tape women in public- often without their consent -
with male complicity.
The reverse is also true.
88. I can be courteous to a person of the opposite sex that I do not
know and say “Hello” or “Hi” and not fear that it will be taken as a
come-on or fear being stalked because of it.
Untrue. Normally when a man speaks to a woman he’s treated as if he’s
about to come-on to her or try to get her phone number. He may not
have to worry about being stalked, but the initial assertion as
totally untrue.
89. I can use physical violence or the threat of physical violence to
get what I want when other tactics fail in a relationship.
This is proof of being a degenerate not a privilege. A woman has
things that she can threaten as well…so is it a privilege that the
tactic we can use is a crime?
90. If I get into a physical altercation with a person of the opposite
sex, I will most likely be able to impose my will physically on that
person.
Blame it on nature…unless you’re dating Layla Ali or something. Once
again, I can’t count assault as privilege. Then again…you might want
to debate this with Lionel Richie.
91. I can go to parades or other public events and not worry about
being physically and sexually molested by persons of the opposite sex.
Depends on what kind of women are around and frankly if a man
complains about this being done to him he’s more likely to be ignored.
92. I can touch and physically grope women’s bodies in public- often
without their consent- with male complicity.
Once again commiting a crime is not a privilege. Also if a woman
should choose to engage in this there is less of a chance that other
women may try and assist the man in question then in the reverse
scenario.
93. In general, I have the freedom to travel in the night without
fear.
I have a large issue with this one. In this situation I am the one
that people are told to be fearful of. I have to worry about being
considered a threat. I’m subject to being avoided just because I’m a
black male. So actually this is not true. I have to worry that
someones fear will lead them to do something that causes trouble for
me. Besides, anyone traveling alone at night can be robbed, shot or
killed.
94. I am able to be out in public without fear of being sexually
harassed by individuals or groups of the opposite sex.
Depends on where you are. However, if I am no one will really care.
I’d be ridiculed if I report it. As a matter of fact many people
believe a man can’t be sexually harassed when they can. So I’ll not
only say this isn’t true…I’ll thank you to not ignore that fact that I
can be harassed and ask you to stop contributing to such ignorance.
